November 22, 2024

Kilmer joined the Autism Institute in 2022 as a research associate, bringing a wealth of experience in mental health nonprofits and a passion for meaningful inclusion. Originally from a rural town of just 600 people in upstate Pennsylvania, Kilmer moved to Philadelphia in 2020 as the world adapted to the pandemic.

After earning dual degrees in psychology and sociology with a minor in English from Hofstra University, Kilmer began their career serving Medicaid-eligible families through mental health nonprofits. "I reached a point where I wanted to be on the production side of research. The Institute is an excellent place to learn alongside others, do great work, and move me closer to my end goals. Ultimately, I want to lead nonprofits, train and mentor staff, and advocate for policy change," Kilmer noted.

Kilmer is deeply passionate about inclusion, especially in their work with the Social Connections and Treatment Lab (SCTL) and Life Course Outcomes (LCO) programs, which aim to elevate voices that have been historically excluded. "My current focus has been getting our training programs off the ground in Philly." In their role, Kilmer supports community engagement efforts and is in the process of launching training programs in Philadelphia, adapting successful initiatives from Long Island. They also use their design expertise to create impactful graphics, tables, and materials for the team.

Reflecting on their career, Kilmer finds the most joy in mentoring and inspiring others. "Growing up, I do not remember meeting adults like me. I did not know that I could be queer or succeed in the work I do. Nothing made me happier than when kids would meet me for the first time and get excited by meeting someone who shared their experiences." They treasure moments like meeting a trans teenager at a career fair who was thrilled to meet a successful trans adult or hearing from a student who pursued sociology because of their guidance.

Outside of work, Kilmer enjoys Philadelphia's thriving local music scene and has attended 15 concerts so far this year, with plans for one more in December. They commemorate each show by embroidering a new design on their denim jacket. When not at concerts, Kilmer participates in an ongoing Dungeons & Dragons campaign, enjoys Dollar Taco Night at Loco Pez with friends, and solves NYT puzzles over their morning pour-over coffee.

When asked what has been the most valuable life lesson they have learned so far, Kilmer quoted "Done is good." This phrase reminds them that perfectionism is an unsustainable and unattainable goal. They also noted how important it is to advocate for yourself when you are just starting out in your career. Kilmer is eager to embrace new opportunities, continuing to advocate for meaningful inclusion and is looking forward to making a mark at the Autism Institute.